Clarity Filters

I teach, or rather facilitate some classes at a local non-profit on our journey with ourselves, God and others. One of the biggest pieces we work on is the lens or filter through which we view things. In the beginning we see things so clearly because life is uncomplicated and simple. As we grow, we develop these lenses and filters as ways of coping with what doesn't make sense or hurts us or contradicts what we thought we knew. As adults, we react through these filters as automatic defenses regardless of reality because it is what we know.

There is great challenge in confronting these lenses and filters and great courage required in changing them. But the freedom that comes from letting go of our skewed reality (I'm fat. I can't do anything right. I'll never learn that because I'm stupid.) into the truth (I'm beautiful and precious. I am unique and I don't have to do everything perfectly. I am capable and can try.) releases us to love ourselves and others better, more deeply. It also releases us to do things and accomplish things we never thought possible. Self-esteem improves, relationships improve (although sometimes the process ends unhealthy ones where the other person isn't open to this change) and futures change as dreams come into focus. It is a truly humbling experience to walk through with someone else.

Now if only we can change the original process for our children, so they grow up with allies that confront truth with them and develop lenses and filters as God sees them. Can you imagine?